Understanding the Problem
Living with the Problem
Questions to Ask about Trauma and Abuse
More Questions about Trauma and Abuse
Case Study: A 16 Year Old Girl and Trauma
Possibilities for Change
Helpful Therapeutic Approaches
Single Adults and Self Harm
Questions About Trauma and Abuse for Single Women
Fresh Perspectives on Trauma and Abuse
Trauma Do's and Dont's
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Trauma and Abuse

Questions Section

The following questions have been collected from a variety of actual therapy sessions.

Questions for People Who Are Struggling with Trauma and Abuse

  • What have you lost to trauma that most saddens you?

  • Do you believe you are just the person trauma tells you that you are?

  • Do you think it is fair that anorexic lifestyles make people so lonely, friendless and isolated?

  • In what ways has trauma effected your relationship with yourself by telling yourself that you are not worthy?

  • Who in your life have you lost because anorexic rules demand so much of your time? Do you think this is fair?

  • If trauma is your "friend" then why does it talk so badly about you?

  • Would a good friend do this to you?

  • How is it that trauma gets away with making people remember to forget their best qualities?

  • How is it that trauma tricks people with promises of safety while it silently takes them away from everyone who loves and supports them?

Questions to Ask About Anorexic Lifestyles

  • Do you think it fair that anorexic lifestyles attempt to devastate and destroy the best women of our generation?

  • What supports are there in popular culture that feed a 'not measuring up to' anorexic lifestyle?

  • How does the culture of 'thinner is better' sway people's thoughts away from other unnoticed qualities in themselves?

  • Is the violence that trauma perpetuates on a woman's body similar or different to male violence against women?

  • What is it that our society promotes that leaves most women with a distorted sense of their own bodies?

  • What effect does being a slave to the idea of perfection have on the problem of trauma overtaking a person?

  • Do you think that there are factors in a person's life beyond their control that makes trauma look like an attractive option?

Questions to Ask Yourself if You Are Going Free of the Problem of Trauma and Abuse

  • At which time of the day are you most anorexic free?

  • How were you able to find this freedom?

  • What does it feel like when you realize that other people are enjoying your own mind/personality instead of them only experiencing the mind/personality the anorexic life once gave you?

  • When you string together your victorious moments away from trauma, what effect does it have on the trauma?

  • What rules of trauma did you eventually have to break in order get your life back?

  • Who in your life is the least surprised by your leaving trauma behind?